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I am there for you….

With out fail, every time I ask a co-worker of mine how he is doing I get the same answer, “It’s a dog eat dog world, and I am wearing Milk Bone underwear.”  His answer always makes me laugh, but it also makes me sad.

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I am used to working in corporate America.  Sadly, for the most part, the majority of  people are beyond competitive, they are almost ruthless.  They will do pretty much anything to get ahead, looking out for number one.  Themselves.

It is a hard lesson to realize and learn.  But you do. You stop being disappointed in people’s behavior, instead you come to expect these actions.

While I published my book,DANGLED CARAT , I didn’t know what to expect of fellow authors.  What would they be like?  Would they be fiercely competitive too? Would they only care about the rankings of their books?

I have to say, I feared the worst….

And man was I wrong!  I have been completely blown away by the compassion and the generosity of all the authors I have come in contact with!  Each and everyone is willing to share with a newbie the hard and sometimes painful lessons that they learned.  They are there to help you celebrate your successes.  And when you need a shoulder to cry on, when the the fear and frustration gets more than you think you can bear, they are there too. They are eager to join forces to organize, host,  and donate their books for giveaways.  They do this not only to build awareness for their books, but to also build awareness for the books of their peers. After all, by introducing readers to new stories, and new writers, everyone wins.  Because really, all that truly matters in the end is that a reader can escape reality for a while and get lost a book… and then another and another…

Speaking of giving… have you entered the giveaway?  5 winners will receive a bundle of ALL these books!


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Hilary Grossman

Hilary Grossman is the author of Plan Bea and Dangled Carat. By day, she works in the booze biz. By night she hangs out with her "characters." She has an unhealthy addiction to denim and high heel shoes. She's been known to walk into walls and fall up stairs. She only eats spicy foods and is obsessed with her cat, Lucy. She loves to find humor in everyday life. She likens life to a game of dodge ball - she tries to keep many balls in the air before they smack her in the face. She lives on the beach in Long Island. To find out more of what Hilary is up to check out her Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/HilaryGrossmanAuthor

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24 thoughts on “I am there for you….

  1. I had the same fears about blogging – I had heard that web hate and competition was pretty fierce. And I imagine it is in some places still — but not mine! I LOVE the community of bloggers I have come to know. It was such a relief to see how helpful, supportive and encouraging everyone has been.

    1. Sparkle – I have to agree 110% with your human. The publishing world is anything but easy or user friendly!

  2. I’ve been able to observe through blogging the incredibly wonderful support of writers. I even became great friends with one – YOU! I always want to support my friends aspirations and dreams the best I can. And I’ve been blown away beyond belief at how they have done the same for Phoenix and I. You’re always one of my favs and we are always there for you, Hilary 🙂

    1. Mike – Ah… you know how to make a girl’s day! I am so thankful that I have you (and Phoenix) as my friends too! Isn’t it great how this crazy internet can connect us? I am always here for you guys…

  3. I have never heard that saying. Guess I haven’t worked long enough in corporate America yet. But I experienced it in other countries. I think there is something about the creative mind e.g. writing, photography etc. that makes it a little different. I still am pretty wary especially with blogging, but my little photo blogging world is slowly expanding and it is good to get to know those same people better and better. It also serves very much as a retreat from corporate world.

    1. Claudia – I don’t think my colleague’s expression made it to main stream yet (or will ever). But I do think he sums it up perfectly…

  4. Oh, how I miss getting lost in a good book. I am embarrassed to say how long it has been since I have read a book from cover to cover.

    It is a little off putting when the first thing someone says to you every single morning is a complaint? We have one like that in our store. Sometimes I hate to even say Good Morning!

    1. Martha – I think that one of these days you should change it and enjoy a good read… But don’t feel embarrassed. There isn’t enough time in the day. I don’t remember the last time I watched a TV show (except as background noise to help me fall asleep) It is off pointing when you are surrounded by negative. I am good at ignoring though…

  5. People never cease to amaze me with generosity and kindness. It’s a shame that in today’s society it’s not as easily found as it should be.
    Congrats to you and the kindness your fellow authors have shown you. 🙂

    1. Tami – you are so right. I am often blown away by how amazing and generous people are (I learned that during Sandy)…

  6. “Dog Eat Dog” people are in the minority.

    I find that most people want to share, encourage, and be your advocate!

    Of course, there are a few arrogant bloggers and writers out there who believe their shit doesn’t stink, but only a small number.

    BRAVO on your book, accomplishments, & etc… xxxxxxxxxx

    1. Inner Chick – I need to hang out with you more often… I like your peeps better than mine! You are probably right though. Most people are helpful, but sometimes just don’t openly show it…

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