He loves me yeah, yeah, yeah…

He loves me yeah, yeah, yeah…

I asked for reader’s questions (seems like forever ago – thank you hurricane sandy!) to use as writing prompts and Kim from My Inner Chick asked “What was the best date I had with my husband?”

 

By far, my favorite date with Marc was our first one… It was beyond perfect –right out of a chick flick.  But since it is a key part of “the book” which I finished editing last weekend and soon and somehow get published, I will save it J I will share a different one.

 

Marc was the ultimate bachelor.  He was extremely commitment phobic.  Forget about wanting a wife, he barely wanted to have a girlfriend.  Any semblance of a relationship scared him.  He never talked about his feelings.  He would give me glimmers of his true feelings, but quickly close off any emotion.

 

I was fine with this in the beginning.  But over time it did get old. I wanted to know how he really felt about me.

 

We planned on spending the weekend together.  It was early November and the weather was getting cold.  My throat felt scratchy when I woke up but I tried to ignore it, as I always do when I don’t feel well.  Marc had to pick up his new car, a convertible, and I went with him.  We drove home with the top down. It was great fun, but by the time we got back to the house, my scratchy throat turned into a full blown cold complete with a fever.

 

We had tickets to see Simon & Garfunkel two days later.  Then we were traveling to Utah to visit his friends the following weekend.

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When I realized how sick I was, my first reaction was to go home.  He would have no part of it.  He made me take Tylenol, get in pajamas, made me tea with lemon and honey, got me a blanket, put on a chick flick for me to watch.   When my fever dropped, he cooked up a delicious but light dinner.

 

When we were done eating, he announced he was going to call his friend to give him the concert tickets.  “But why?” I asked.  “I am sure I will feel better by then.”

 

“I don’t want to risk you getting worse.  The concert isn’t worth it.  It is more important you get well so you can enjoy the trip.”

 

“Well then go without me.”  I replied.

 

“No, it wouldn’t be fun without you.  If you don’t go, I don’t want to go.”

 

With that, he picked up the phone and gave the tickets away.  I realized something that day.  He may not have found it easy to put his feelings into words, but he was able to show me what he felt.  I always believed that talk is cheap and actions speak more than words.  And his showed me how much he cared…

 

Now it is my turn… What was the best date you have had?

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Hilary Grossman

Hilary Grossman is the author of Plan Bea and Dangled Carat. By day, she works in the booze biz. By night she hangs out with her "characters." She has an unhealthy addiction to denim and high heel shoes. She's been known to walk into walls and fall up stairs. She only eats spicy foods and is obsessed with her cat, Lucy. She loves to find humor in everyday life. She likens life to a game of dodge ball - she tries to keep many balls in the air before they smack her in the face. She lives on the beach in Long Island. To find out more of what Hilary is up to check out her Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/HilaryGrossmanAuthor

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22 thoughts on “He loves me yeah, yeah, yeah…

  1. Oh I so agree with that, that actions speak so much louder that words. I have always thought that . Marc sounds like a very special person. And we know you think he is special.
    Have a great week end and Happy New Year to both of you.

  2. ~~~OmyGOSH,
    he is a KEEPER. I think I love him. I really do. You deserve a man like this.

    Mr. L is like this, too. Sooo nurturing & caring. The perfect caregiver.

    Thank you for answering my question. YOU Rock like Gaga. Xxxxxx

    1. Inner Chick- I rock like Gaga?!?! You know how to make a girl smile! You are so sweet.. I am glad that Marc and Mr. L are the same type… we are too lucky ladies… XOXO

  3. Oh gosh. This is too sweet. Men of little words… yeah, I’m quite familiar with that!!! 🙂 Can’t wait to read your book. Do I get an advance copy???? 😉

  4. I completely agree with the sentiment that actions speak louder than words… and with those actions you knew exactly who/what you had…. no wonder you fought so hard to keep him!
    Happy New Year to you and Marc….. here’s hoping 2013 is a better year

    XOXOXO <3

    1. Brenda – it took me a while to learn that talk is cheap, but I am so glad I learned that lesson… I did fight because I did know that he had a big heart in there as opposed to just the cold one he initially showed… Happy New Year to you too! Goodbye 2012!

  5. you have no idea now much I LOVED this and you are sooo right!

    When Lenny and I were casually dating (or should i say when he was pushing me AWAY) he was much like Marc. He didn’t want to be married again and didn’t necessarily want one girlfriend and he sure didn’t want me moving to Michigan (from Ohio) for HIM!
    the day I moved here he came over with pizza for me and my girlfriend who helped me move and he brought me a $100 gift card from Bed Bath & Beyond (oh and he had also found my apt for me…conveniently located less than 5 min from his condo) all of that from someone who didn’t want a relationship or marriage. Like you, we are NOW MARRIED!
    xoxoxo

    1. Caren – oh yeah… Lenny didn’t want a relationship 🙂 I think so many times these guys are just afraid, especially to trust their hearts…which eventually they always do (if they are smart enough) Marc still to this day can’t explain why he was so afraid of a commitment…. MEN!

    1. Debby – I know what you mean.. I need time to think too – and I do my best thinking in the shower. I will lend you Marc for a little while if you like. He is quite handy too!

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